ANiS HaDi

Its been a long time since I last wrote in this blog..Have been in the pleasure of spilling my thots out in some other place, hehe..And really enjoying it..

However, felt like posting this in my own blog..I think i saw this post before in Safwan’s blog..But its ok..I really love what Oprah had to say about men..Some of it does relate to whats happening in my life and some dont..Its just something to ponder on..

If a man wants you, nothing can keep him away. If he doesnt want you, nothing can make him stay away. Stop making excuses for a man and his behaviour. Allow your intuition (or spirit) to save your from heartache.

Stop trying to change yourself for a relationship that’s not meant to be. Slower is better. Never live your life for a man before you find what makes you truly happy.

If a relationship ends because the man was not treating you as you deserve, then heck no, you can’t "be friends". A friend wouldn’t mistreat a friend. Don’t settle.

If you feel like he is stringing you along, the he probably is. Don’t stay because you think "it will get better". You’ll be mad at yourself a year later for staying when things are not better. The only person you can control in a relationship is you.

Avoid men who’ve got a bunch of children by a bunch of different women. He didnt marry them when he got them pregnant, why would he treat you differently?

Always have your own set of friends separate from his. Maintain boundaries in how a guy treats you. If something bothers u, speak up.

Never let a man know everything. *Big mistake - He will use it against you later.

You cannot change a man’s behaviour. *Change comes from within.

Dont EVER make him feel more important than you are..even if he has more education or in a better job. Do not make him into quasi-god. He is a man, nothing more nothing lee. Never let a man define who you are. Never borrow someone else’s man. If he cheated with you, he’ll cheated on you. A man will only treat you the way you ALLOW him to treat you.

All men are not dogs.

You should not be the one doing all the bending..compromise is two way street.

You need time to heal between relationships..there’s nothing cute about baggage..deal with your issues before pursuing a new relationship.

You should never look for someone to COMPLETE you..a relationship consist of two WHOLE individuals..look for someone complimentary..not supplementary.

Dating is fun..even if he doesnt turn out to be Mr. Right.

Make him miss you sometimes..when a man always know where you are, and you’re always readily available to him - he takes it for granted.

Never move into his mother’s house. Never co-sign for a man.

Dont fully commit to a man who doesnt give you everything that you need. * Keep him in your radar but get to know others.

They say it takes a minute to find a special person, an hour to appreciate them, a day to love them and an entire lifetime to forget them.

You should know that you’re the best thing that could ever happen to anyone and if a man mistreats you, he’ll miss out on a good thing. If he was attracted to you in the first place, just know that he’s not the only one. They are all watching you, so you have a lot of choices. Make the right one.

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